GIVEAWAY + Erasing Loneliness Week 5 | Enjoy Intergenerational Friendships

Erasing Loneliness is a 6 week challenge to help you move past loneliness and foster more meaningful connections. Get the scoop HERE.

If you haven’t done so already CLICK HERE to download the Erasing Loneliness JORNAL. It’ll help you track your thoughts and transformation towards authentic friendships throughout the challenge. You can find WEEK 1 hereWEEK 2 here, WEEK 3 here, WEEK 4 here. Feel free to go at your own pace.

Week 5 Challenge Activity: Enjoy Intergenerational Friendships.

Since loneliness hit in my early twenties, the allure of engaging with other
20-somethings was high
. Strangely enough, our little farm town seemed devoid of that population group and places to meet them.

Have you experienced something similar…(whatever your age-group is)?

When individuals years younger and older began making appearances in my life I was a tad hesitant. Could true connection flourish with someone experiencing an entirely different life phase? Would they know and understand my heart?

Instead of turning them away for fear of not having much in common, I chose to enjoy each and every one of them. This led to a wealth of incredible friendships.

Nothing breaks up a long day like chatting with a 5th grader as he helps you with landscaping, or sharing the burdens of life with a 63 year old as she fixes you a chicken salad sandwich. Some of my closest friends in this ‘new-ish’ town of mine are 10 to 20 years older and younger than I am. Yep.

All that to say — it’s possible. Possible and I’m daring you to GO FOR IT. Because maybe that’s all we really need for this week’s challenge. Permission.

Maybe this GIVEAWAY will help?


The ‘Life as We Know It’ guide was created to nurture relationships and build community through sharing life stories. My sweet friend Erin helped develop it with a team at Spread Truth. She’s a BOSS writer. I’ll be GIVING AWAY one copy.

What better way to get to know some new friends than with a resource that nudges you to share your story?

TO ENTER the giveaway, leave a comment below by:
1) sharing a bit of your story — or — 2) telling me what you most hope for in friendships.

[Giveaway ends May 29th at 11:59pm. Winner will be selected randomly and notified by e-mail — be sure to add alysa@kitchenfellowship.com to your ‘safe’ e-mail list! Giveaway is not sponsored. If you’re feeling ‘share-y’, pass this post onto a friend too!]

How to Participate in this week’s Erasing Loneliness Challenge

– Is there someone years older or younger you want to be friends with? Feel free to tell me (in the comments) about what fears you face when embracing a friendship with them. I’m ready to help you through your hangups.

– If you don’t know many people of different ages, consider where you might hangout or what in your community you could do/join that would foster these type of friendships. Keep track of your ideas in the Erasing Loneliness JOURNAL that I’ve made just for you!

– If you hang out ‘intergenerationally’ this week snap a picture and share it on Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram with the hashtag #erasingloneliness.

Longing to foster more meaningful connections?
Sign up below for more posts like this and your free ‘Getting Started’ Guide!

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Erasing Loneliness In Review

Pre-Challenge Question
Wise Advice for Your Biggest Hospitality Fears
– Wk 1  Challenge Activity: Embrace Alone Time
– Wk 2 Challenge Activity: Everyone’s Not For You
– Wk 3 Challenge Activity: Engage in All Areas of Life 
– Wk 4 Challenge Activity: Extravagantly Share Your Gifts

Image via Ria Baeck – Creative Commons

6 comments… add one

  • Laura May 25, 2014, 7:41 pm

    I’ve had quite the similar experience. When I lived in Gainesville, FL, I had a hard time forming friendships because, well, it’s a college town! About 75% (I’m making up a very official statistic) of the population was 17-21, and being in my mid-twenties and oh-so-much more sophisticated than them, I wasn’t finding anyone I could mesh well with.

    Well, my friends came through work. I worked at the big hospital in town, and my friends were nurses or people that worked in the Nursing Dept. with me. My boss (awesome woman who was 60 going on 35) became by friend, my dear friend Colleen who has girls my age, and a few other nurses in their early to mid-thirties with husbands, kids, actual careers and savings accounts.

    I now regret not putting more energy into these friendships. I didn’t because I felt that I was not “old” enough or “put-together” enough to have friends that were so ahead in life. I felt like the college kid around them.

    It’s validating to see you write about this, because it was my own issues with my self-image and esteem that hindered me from accepting these awesome friends into my life. How prideful of me! Great post, Alysa! :)

    • Alysa May 27, 2014, 11:34 am

      Thanks for sharing this Laura!! I’m in FL right now answering your comment. Isn’t it funny that we can sometimes be our own worst enemies when trying to form friendships? Are you still in touch with many of these people?

  • Trina May 28, 2014, 9:35 pm

    I am so intrigued by this guide! Over the years I’ve seen how my story is about an independent “capable” girl slowly realizing her need for a savior. I’ve enjoyed some adventure and travel. But in my search for “away,” always find that contentment in this place is the only way to truly enjoy life. Of course, there are lots of pieces to all of our stories, and it’s so fascinating to see how those overlap and bring us together.

    Love that you provide a space for that here :)

    • Alysa May 29, 2014, 12:36 am

      Thanks Trina! I was just reading about contentment not matter the circumstance — this afternoon. Love that you tie in the need for a savior in the midst of having a wildly independent streak.

  • Jessica May 29, 2014, 3:10 pm

    My husband and I moved somewhere new a few years ago, and found a small group of friends our age. But as everyone had kids and w didn’t, we started looking around to find other meaningful relationships. I had a lady from church ask us over for dinner and games. Her and her husband are about 35 years older than us, so I was very hesitant. We went, and had a great time.
    I am afraid of making friends outside my age group for fear we won’t have anything in common, or it will be awkward. This one experience taught me that you can have things in common with people of many ages, and that it can be awkward starting a new relationship, no matter the age difference. Not that this one experience cured me of my fear, I still struggle!
    I’m am an introvert that longs for deep meaningful relationships, and I struggle to put myself out there. Makes for some lonely times. I’ve appreciated your tips on growing in this area!

    • Alysa May 30, 2014, 4:03 pm

      Thanks so much Jessica! Glad you shared a bit of your story here. You make a great point — starting a new relationships with someone of ANY age can be awkward and strange feeling. Encouraged to know you’re pressing on and trying to connect with others to foster meaningful relationships. Hope you build lovely friendships as you continue to settle into your town.

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