We all have those nights of longing for pajamas, simple dinner, and some old re-runs the moment we’re tucked in for the evening. But — before we know it we’ve created a habit of isolation and loneliness by shutting ourselves in and not sharing real food with real people in our homes.
The refrain usually starts with, “I’ll have people over when…”
…I’m not brain dead tired.
…when the house is clean.
…I can figure out what to make for dinner.
…once we paint the bathroom.
…when the kids are older.
…after the lawn is mowed.
…when we have a little extra cash in the budget.
Whatever your ‘when’ is it’s time to gracefully push it aside. It’s keeping you from embracing the people in your life who matter.
Call, email, text, or tweet your friends. “Hey, I’d love for you to come over on _______________ night for dinner at _____ pm. Bring a box of your favorite cereal. I’ll provide the milk and a box of cereal too. We’re having a cozy cereal party so wear comfy clothes.”
Cereal, milk, toast. Talk about simple.
More than likely you have a loaf of bread and a smidgen of peanut butter left in the jar, a random assortment of jellies and butter in the fridge. Pull them out with the toaster. Leave those toast crumbs in the butter. Maybe that’s gross but I’m willing to bet 92% of people experience the same particles in their breakfast spreads. It’ll add to the homey vibe.
Toaster, bowls, spoons. Napkins and butter knives for toast. Ta-dah! You’re done.
Break out the comfy clothing. Keen on sweatpants? Holey jeans and a grandma sweater? Okay!
Don’t over-clean your house or apartment. Leave the mis-matched blankets on the couch, the empty pizza box and stack of junk mail and on the counter, and the wee dust particles on the picture frames. Most everyone else has these accoutrements in their home too.
Want to eat cozied up in the living room? Go for it. Invite your friends to grab an extra couch pillow and flop on the floor.
Just Be, with the People You Love:
Think about it. When you’re exhausted, sometimes the last thing you want to do is go out to a party because you might have to spiff up, whip up a great side-dish, be ‘on’.
When there’s no pressure to be ‘dazzling’, you can just be yourself. Even if that means ya’ll just sit around the living room staring at the walls and crunching on cereal because it’s been a ‘long hard day’ at the office or at home with the kids.
Being together is essential. Isn’t this what we crave? To be known, understood, seen, and loved in our weakest, tiredest, messy-house moments? When there’s no pressure to converse, conversation flows naturally.
So whatever excuse might keep you from fellowship and hospitality tonight let it evaporate. Instead, invite your dearest friends into your home for cereal.