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Erase Loneliness & Kindle Friendships Like Wildfire

What you’ll gain from the Erasing Loneliness Journey:

– Ideas for forming authentic friendships and meaningful connection to others
– Decreased loneliness/isolation
– A chance to impact the world around you

How this Challenge Works:

– Each week, for the next 6 weeks, I’ll give you 1 simple activity to complete and 1 question to answer [delivered via e-mail]. These will be the practical tips I took to shake loneliness and form vibrant friendships in my own life after moving to a new town.

– If you’re not already on the Kitchen Fellowship mailing list Sign Up below for this challenge.

– By the end, you’ll be erasing loneliness and digging into ways to kindle friendships like wildfire.

–  I’ll be sharing weekly success from our community and encouraging you along the way as you work through each activity.

How to Participate

Invite a friend along. Why? The more camaraderie we foster here, the more accountability you’ll have. Which means we’re more likely to reach our goal of erasing loneliness and fostering friendships.

– Share your progress via #erasingloneliness hashtag on Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.

– Join the conversation on Facebook. Click ‘Like’, then hover over the ‘Like’ and click ‘Get Notifications’ from the pop-down menu.

What To Do Now

Answer this pre-challenge question in the comments below: What fear keeps you from sharing hospitality or friendship with others?

– Invite a friend along by sending them to this blog post.

 With love and excitement, 


**I’ll share some ‘Common Hospitality Hang-Up Cures’ — next week!**

18 comments… add one

  • Merritt April 17, 2014, 4:06 pm

    It’s often just “time” – as in how will I make time to add something to my schedule that I hope will be casual, restful, restoring and hospitable for others (AND for me). I have loved the suggestions you’ve given about having a go-to meal available for that spontaneous dinner invitation. I’m not there yet, but that feels to me like it would be a good start. Excited about this challenge and looking forward to how it impacts relationships in my life and others’ lives.

    • Alysa April 17, 2014, 6:32 pm

      Time is a huge one isn’t it, Merritt? You’ve also brought up a good point…restorative for others AND yourself.
      Thank you! Pretty sure tacos are my go-to meal.
      Glad you’re excited about the challenge.

  • Laura April 18, 2014, 5:44 am

    In all honesty, my fear is that I either pick bad friendships or am not super at being a friend (I think it might be a mix of both). I haven’t had great luck with friendships in the past, which might be partially or mostly my fault, not sure, but I kind of resorted to not having any and seeing how that went. Well, being a woman, and an extrovert, and Hispanic to boot… well, it’s just not working out. :) I’ve got lots of learning and healing to do regarding friendship, and I think maybe just opening up to the thought of genuine friendship might get me over that hump.

    • Alysa April 18, 2014, 2:16 pm

      Sweet, sweet Laura! Grateful that you shared your heart here. Your transparency is sure to help us all engage more!

      Lol – you’re dang right! Women need friends. :) Praying for you as you learn and heal – and of course – I’m walking right along side you.

      Genuine friendship’s where it’s at. Woohoo!

    • Merritt April 24, 2014, 9:30 pm

      Oh Laura – I’ve certainly felt this way. In fact, for a long time I felt like I had “proof” that I don’t really know how to be a good friend (based on feedback I’ve gotten about this). There have been lots of tears as I’ve gone through seasons of feeling like I’m disappointing others because I’m not the kind of friend they wanted me to be. I think I’m coming out of that now…or learning to make friends with different kinds of people. We ALL have learning to do and I think you’re on to something…genuine friendship is where it’s at!!

      • Alysa April 25, 2014, 12:47 pm

        Ah yes!! Love the insight about other people wanting you to be what they need vs. accepting your friendship as it is. Really glad we’re all connecting here!

      • Laura May 13, 2014, 4:05 pm

        Yes, I think a big part of it has been not picking the right friendships… but then I feel like I didn’t go about it the right way. Whether maintaining them or dissolving them in a graceful way. I don’t think I’m cursed to being a bad friend forever; I’m glad that I’ve come across communities of people looking to have a more purposeful life and looking to make friends with people of substance. :)

        • Alysa May 13, 2014, 4:08 pm

          Ah that makes sense. No way – you’re not cursed forever! The sheer fact that you’re trying to be more intentional about friendships is an AWESOME first step. “People of substance”…love that!

  • Abril April 18, 2014, 2:58 pm

    My fear is that they wouldn’t want to come if I invite them.
    In the past, they came when they haven’t other options available (or that’s the feeling they gave).
    I think, if you are a real friend, you want to share some time together and make space for it.
    So, as Laura said, maybe I pick up bad friends too.

    P.S.: excuse my english! :)

    • Alysa April 18, 2014, 9:42 pm

      So glad you’re here Abril! Welcome!

      Thanks for sharing your fears here – that took courage. Your english is great. :)
      Ah – I know what you mean and I’m so glad you brought up this point. We’ll be working through ‘inviting’ during one week of the challenge. Having friends that put you second repeatedly is pretty painful! We’re ALSO going to talk about that too!

  • Deborah April 18, 2014, 3:08 pm

    Friendship is scary … being a good friend to me means being present to what is in the room, and that could be painful :) I have not done that well in the past … It also means people will ask me what’s fun for me .. What if I get bored? What if I am ready to be done with people for now? I seem to fall on the far end of the introvert scale … feeling my way with how that works socially … I know I love to share my space in small spurts of time … and food ! I love to cook for people! Small spurts of time with option for more if it is flowing well and feels good …

    • Alysa April 18, 2014, 9:45 pm

      Small spurts of time with meaningful people is a beautiful thing if that’s what feels whole and right to you Deborah! No need to fill up every night of the calendar. That might be people-overload. :) Happy that cooking for others makes your heart sing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Deborah!

  • Trina April 21, 2014, 5:55 pm

    My fear is in being the initiator. Something about the possibility of being turned down or the ridiculous idea that I need others more than they need me. Not sure what that’s about, but there it is :)

    • Alysa April 21, 2014, 7:37 pm

      I understand both of these fears too! We’ll be covering those on the last week of the challenge. Awesome that you brought them up Trina. :)

  • Amber October 22, 2014, 12:49 am

    My first challenge is feeling insecure about my home’s appearance (we bought a major fixer and have been spending our budget on un-pretty things like insulation, roof repairs, etc).
    My second challenge is figuring out what food to serve that can be prepared with two little ones underfoot. I’m a fairly confident cook, but I feel overwhelmed when I need to come up with a menu. Add a gluten-free guest and ack!

    • Alysa October 22, 2014, 6:21 am

      So glad you shared your concerns here, Amber! I’ve lived in a fixer-upper before so I understand that challenge!

      Have you heard of The Nester? (www.thenester.com) She blogs, and wrote a book, about creating the home you’ve always wanted and I love that she starts with this, “It doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful.” I just finished her book and found such freedom in it. She shares pretty creative ideas for sprucing up your home without breaking the bank! :) I think you’d like her site too.

      Oh gosh! Little ones and a gluten free guest? Whew. Do you have a crockpot? If I know I’ll be pressed for time come dinner time, I’ll throw a few chicken breasts and a 1/2 jar of salsa into the crockpot on the low setting. Before dinner I’ll shred the chicken in the crockpot. If you have time make a quick pan of rice. Grab some gluten free corn taco shells. Shred some lettuce as the guests arrive and put a bowl of cheese on the table. Serve the chicken right out of the crockpot if you’d like! Chips and salsa on the side? :)

  • Amber October 23, 2014, 1:03 am

    Thank you for the quick reply!
    I just realized the challenge started a while ago but I’m delighted to discover these resources. I will check out the nester! I also appreciate the crockpot game plan. That’s totally doable and I usually have those ingredients on hand. Thank you for taking time to help me.

    • Alysa October 23, 2014, 7:05 am

      You’re so welcome, Amber! Yes…this challenge started a while ago but you can hop on board when ever you’d like! If you have questions along the way just leave a comment on the post or send me an email alysa[at]kitchenfellowship[dot]com. I’m happy to help.

      Also — BIG NEWS! Today I’m emailing out my ‘Authentic Hospitality // Simple Party’ guidebook and resource pack that I’ve been working on for the last month. I couldn’t find you on my subscriber list but you can sign up here: http://kitchenfellowship.com/kf-signup/ (You’ll receive a getting started guide which I send out to all new subscribers and then later today I’ll send out the hospitality guidebook.)

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