Erasing Loneliness Week 1 | Embrace Alone Time

Erasing Loneliness is a 6 week challenge to help you move past loneliness and foster more meaningful connections. Get the scoop HERE.

CLICK HERE to download the Erasing Loneliness JORNAL. It’ll help you track your thoughts and transformation towards authentic friendships throughout the challenge. (We’ll work through the other 5 pages over the next 5 weeks).

Week 1 Challenge Activity: Embrace Alone Time.

Do you feel friendless right now? Maybe a few of your friends are walking through a fuller season of life and can’t spend as much time with you as they used to. Well — here’s your challenge activity for the week. Embrace alone time. Yep. I’m serious.

While this may sound counterintuitive, learning how to embrace and enjoy isolating seasons or weeks of your life is important. Deep contentment flows when you delight in alone time.

But how do we do this?

Think about your childhood. Boredom was never an option when I was a kid. Was it the same for you? If my day felt uneventful and I mentioned this to my parents, they’d respond with, “Go find something to do.”

What if we took the same approach to loneliness?

Sulking in boredom leaves kids bored. Wallowing in loneliness makes us lonelier still.

When you feel loneliness and isolation creeping over don’t sink into the feeling by watching hours of crappy T.V. or escaping into a cheap book.

Get out there! Continue to participate in the things you love doing. 

After moving to a new town and facing pangs of loneliness (and crying on various occasions) “getting out there” meant strapping on my cross country skis and savoring fresh snow even though I had no one to tag along. It was the solo trips I’d take to the art gallery and the farmer’s market strolls. It meant making nice dinners, for one, and holding space for the relationships yet to come. And come they have.

Doing the things you love will lift your mood, settle your soul, and move you to continuous exploration of the life and seasons you’ve been given.

How to Participate

Pick your favorite activity, the one that brings you the most joy, and do it solo this week. Embrace alone time. Tell me in the comments below what activity you’ll do.

– Need to reflect on your feelings of isolation or loneliness, or what’s difficult about spending time alone? Want to capture your thoughts after enjoying your activity? Write about it in this Erasing Loneliness JOURNAL that I’ve made just for you!

– Post a picture of your activity or journal page with the #erasingloneliness hashtag on Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.

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8 comments… add one

  • Merritt April 24, 2014, 9:27 pm

    Thanks for your perspective Alysa…especially relating loneliness seasons to moments of boredom as a kid. I realize I’m not “bored” very often these days, but I do have a restlessness at times when it seems I don’t have something on my schedule. But I need to learn to embrace the downtime…now more than ever! Since I love to be outdoors and there’s a lake near our new home that I haven’t explored yet, I’m going to go for a run or walk (or both). I promise to do it within the week!

    • Alysa April 25, 2014, 12:45 pm

      Of course! I experience that same restlessness too. It’s easy to pack our schedules with activity — thinking that will make us feel less lonely. Often those activities aren’t quality time with authentic people.

      A walk by the lake sounds LOVELY. I’ve been walking around our lake and going crazy for all the loon calls.

  • Deborah April 29, 2014, 12:23 am

    Beautiful afternoon … spent writing on my patio …embracing the space of aloneness instead of trying to fill it with “stuff I have to get done” …

    • Alysa April 29, 2014, 2:17 pm

      That’s so lovely! Spent it on ‘being’ time instead of ‘doing’ time. Thanks for sharing Deborah.

      I spent some time sewing. Haven’t done that in ages but it was refreshing.

      • Deborah April 29, 2014, 4:02 pm

        I used to love to sew !

        • Alysa April 29, 2014, 5:51 pm

          Yeah?! That’s so fun!! What was your favorite thing to make?

          • Deborah April 30, 2014, 10:22 pm

            Clothes ! I made all of my maternity clothes when I was pregnant with my daughter … looking back that seems a little missionary like, truth be told … it was the only way I could have new clothes when I was growing up … my mother would make them and then I learned to … Fascinating ! So for me it was a symbol of lack … when really ? It is an amazing form of creativity and artistry … who knew!!!

          • Alysa May 1, 2014, 12:21 pm

            Incredible! :)

            I like making clothes now and again.

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