– Anaïs Nin
Since Valentine’s Day is almost upon us, I’d like to put down the chocolate, over-stuffed teddy bears, vases of roses, and lovey-dovey sentiments because maybe you’re hurting.
A friend said something that cuts you in two. Your mind’s replaying a fight with your significant other. You can’t put your finger on it, but something’s just not right between you and your kids. It’s a struggle with someone you’ve known for years or a big misunderstanding with a new co-worker. While it’s nice to celebrate a day of love…life’s messy and I’m sure your wounds need healing just as much as mine do.
Next week I’ll be sharing several steps you can take to foster restoration in your relationships, but let’s begin with some preparation first so we step into it with
an open heart.
Make time this week or weekend to ponder the state of your relationships. It’s easy to love those who love us and are kind to us, but let’s move into the the hard but beautiful work of taking care of the relationships in our lives that have brought us pain.
Commit to pray for those friends or family members; ask that God would show you how to restore what’s bruised and broken. Pray when you’re eating breakfast, pray when you’re chopping carrot sticks for lunch, pray when you’re pounding chicken flat for dinner.
Then, consider the following questions before next week:
- Who do you need to be honest with [and what about]?
- What hurts and offenses are you carrying? Who has made your heart weep?
- Who do you need to forgive for the sake of your freedom and peace?
- Is there someone in your life who needs a sincere apology?
- What friend or family member might need your attention and care? Care that maybe you’ve been withholding.
Write down your answers or keep them swirling in your head. Either way – be sure to come back next week as we journey into healing and restoration of broken relationships.
If there’s a broken relationship in your life feel free to express your thoughts in the comment section. I know this is a touchy subject so don’t worry about sharing a name or even a particular person – but let your struggles out. Let them out here because this is a safe place for the wounds you hold.