Why is it Essential to Gather with Strangers?

by Alysa on October 2, 2014

“Your beloved and your friends were once strangers. Somehow at a particular time, they came from the distance toward your life. Their arrival seemed so accidental and contingent. Now your life is unimaginable without them.” – John O’Donohue

Last Saturday my friend Kristi and I hosted our first ever Art & Eats mini retreat.

8 women, mostly strangers or acquaintances to one other, spent the morning together last Saturday.

From the moment everyone walked though the door [to create art and share brunch] there was laughter, meaningful conversations, and genuine fellowship.

Kristi and I loved hearing people say, “I so needed this.” Listening to the flutter of connections being made in conversation as I pulled quiche from the oven was heartwarming.

These women came ready to create and went beyond the usual surface level chitter chatter.

My heart is bursting with gratitude and the revelation that our towns and communities are smaller than we think.

Why is it Essential to Gather with Strangers?

I’m willing to bet there are multitudes of “strangers” in your community just waiting to know you. Just waiting for a time and place to gather, for the stage to be set for friendship.

Every friend you have was once a stranger to you. Right? That’s why it’s so essential to make time for people you don’t really know.

Here’s your call. Your encouragement. Open your home, or the coffee shop door, and gather with those on the fringes of your friend group. The acquaintances. The people you “know of” but have never actually hung out with. The “strangers”. The neighbors. The women and men who “need this”, need a place to be known, loved, cared for.

It might just turn out better than you could have imagined.

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If you’re hesitant and have a slew of hangups when it comes to gathering with others… help is coming at the end of October.

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Lauri Newell October 5, 2014 at 4:39 pm

Alysa, I so needed to be reminded of this today. Sometimes I weary of inviting people only to discover that they’re too busy to follow through. But I need to keep watching expectantly for these little connections to form. We love to host Breakfast4Dinner on Sunday Nights and our guests just bailed… maybe I need to take a walk around the neighborhood and be open to who to invite instead! Thank you!


Alysa October 5, 2014 at 9:24 pm

Glad I could share the reminder with you — it’s one I need from time to time! Sorry to hear your guests just bailed but, wow, how cool that you’re using it as an opportunity to scout the neighborhood.

I love breakfast for dinner. Especially on Sunday nights. Great tradition.


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